If you’ve had fall to your knees, crazy for each other type of love, it’s hard to have anything but. Years ago I went to a psychic who said to me, “You’ve had the best…Once you’ve had that you can’t be with anyone who doesn’t have that same connection. You need that same powerful connection or better.” She went on to describe the man I would marry. I was hoping she would start describing Alexander Skarsgard and she did say a few descriptive words that could very well be; older but not an old man (Her words not mine), worldly, charismatic, educated and passionate. She went on to explain his personality; Strong, good for me and kind. Followed by a physical appearance of which I won’t discuss here but the physical appearance was not exactly that of Alexander...bummer...She gave a few details of his work…Again, I won’t share it now.
The explanation of this man I would be with was something I wanted and needed to hear at the time. I was in limbo with BigRed. She told me to stop seeing him...In fact, scolded me and told me to run away, as far away as I could get from him. “You are going to have to distance yourself and I mean, hop on a plane and don’t come back. He’s too hard and you’re too soft. He will only continue to hurt you and he’ll never let you go.” I knew this in my heart to be true but I wanted to believe in us. How could I not, we felt like destiny. When we came together, it was love at first sight. We had such passion for each other, he made me laugh and when things were good, they were great. Listening to her explain the alternative to BigRed made me think and reconsider…Knowing I could have something and someone I’ve always wanted was appealing.
Now, after recently going through a break-up, my eyes have opened to who I really am, and what I really want. This past break-up was maybe the easiest I have ever been through. No regrets, no shoulda, woulda, couldas and the ending was final for both parties. A clean, no fuss, no mess break…Something I’m not used to and grateful to have experienced. I’m armed with the knowledge; timing is everything and you can’t force these things. I’ll end today with my Mother’s long-standing advice. These are the only two words any male or female needs to hear in regard to relationships…Never settle.
A few posts that mention BigRed:
Love at first sight
Love, Wine and the In Between
Love is Hard